Archive for June, 2012

Find Time To Indulge Your Passion In Life!

Thursday, June 7th, 2012

People tend to think that, when you’re retired, you have all the time in the world to do everything you want to. Although it’s true that I have much more free time than I did when I was working (I had no free time at all then), I still don’t get time to enjoy my favorite pastime , WRITING MY NOVELS, until around nine o’clock at night.

Why so late, you may ask? Often, people of retirement age have some trouble sleeping, so it is important to sleep in rather than suffer from sleep deprivation. So many of us seniors begin the day a little later than those who are in the working force. (Of course, there are many exceptions to this observation since many retired folk still like to get up early and go to bed early.) Anyway, for those of us who have to get up a little later to have sufficient rest, the day begins later than it should, and we have less time to get necessary things done.

For example, eating a healthy breakfast takes extra time to prepare. When I was working, I was younger and healthier, so eating nutritious breakfasts was not as necessary, (although I know how important a good breakfast is for everyone.) After breakfast, a check-in with the bank by phone is ultra-important to me. To be able to remain retired means keeping track of spending to the nth degree. And I do just that! Trust me, to the nth degree. I used to spend with abandon. Now I’ve abandoned spending, except for food, of course.

Then there are doctors’ appointments. As you get older, there are more of them, of course, and usually, the exams take longer than they once did because they have to be more comprehensive. If you don’t take care of your health by practicing preventative medicine, more time will be spent at the doctors’ offices, and that is not a pleasant thought, by any means.

Then there’s lunch and dinner preparation, which means extra food shopping. When you’re working, you often eat a light lunch, but when you’re retired, you want to eat something a little more special. Usually, it’s a little more fattening, even if it is nutritious, too!

I do volunteer work a few times a week, which I love. Many retired people do that, too. It feels so good to give back and help people. Also, I have studied the Bible for years now and do a great deal of studying each week, which helps me to have a positive attitude and look forward to the fulfillment of the last few Bible prophecies. All these pursuits and activities take time.

After dinner, which takes a while to prepare, enjoy and clean up from, I do a little gardening. I enjoy the plants and flowers so much!

By about nine o’clock in the evening, I’m ready for my work on the computer. To me, that’s the most enjoyable time of the day when I can be myself and pursue my passion: writing. The problem is that by midnight, I’m exhausted, so I usually get in only three hours of fun, which includes e-mails, blogging, Facebook, and writing my books.

Of course, I know that I am blessed to have as much time as I have for myself and my various pursuits. When I was working, there was barely enough time for anything but work. I guess, the more time you have, the more you want. If my husband were in better health, I would want to do more traveling, but we adjust to what we must, and we learn to enjoy every aspect of our lives.

So now it’s time for me to write Chapter 48 of my latest novel. In a week or so it will be finished, and I will be ready to send it around to the various publishing houses. I hope it will sell because I do not intend to give up on this novel! It has been such a pleasure to write! All of my books have! Thank God for hobbies, dreams and hope!

Until the next post,

Cheryl

Remembering My Dad: A Lesson in Positive Thinking

Friday, June 1st, 2012

Today’s lesson on positive thinking comes from memories of my dad, Philip Miller, who was born in 1910 and passed away in 1987 at the age of 77. Practically all of my memories of him are joyful ones, for he was a person who radiated happiness and positive thoughts, which resulted in positive actions.

He loved people and always had a great many friends. I remember how much he loved to go to gatherings of friends and relatives. Being among others and exchanging ideas on a variety of topics energized him.

Dad studied to be a lawyer, but when he found it difficult financially to pursue his studies and he had the desire to make money right away, get married and start a family, he left the study of law and worked for The Brooklyn Eagle in their circulation department. Later, he worked for The Herald Tribune and finally the Daily News. Eventually, he was promoted to the position of supervisor.

Dad also studied to be an insurance agent and started his own installment business, where he sold clothes, linens and other merchandise. He wanted so much to give his family all that he could, as did my mother, of course, who was a homemaker and stay-at-home mom.

How are memories of my dad related to positive thinking? From an early age, I remember my father counseling my sister and me on how to respond to situations in our lives. He said very simply, “There are two ways to look at any negative experience you may undergo. One is to be resentful, wallow in it, and perpetuate through speech or obsessive thoughts its ugliness. Another is to try to find a positive twist to it, regardless of how challenging it may be to do so. There is always something positive to draw out of any situation,” he would say. (And, you know, that is so true!) He would go on to say, “Dwelling on the negative will make you miserable and rob you of life’s joy, but thinking about the positive aspects of that same situation will bring you happiness and encouragement.”

I know what you are thinking. There are some situations that are so hurtful and depressing that there are no positive aspects to them. And I do agree that it is difficult to make lemonade out of lemons, to borrow a very old expression. But it is nevertheless possible to do so, and positive people do it all the time. That is how they go on with their lives and remain productive and a blessing to others even after experiencing tragedy in their own lives.

People like this turn to God for encouragement. They pray. They read and reread the Bible. They talk to others who have experienced tragedy and have found some way to find peace, closure and help others in similar situations. People write about their experiences, showing others there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Others form bereavement groups or support groups of other types, depending upon their situations, where they can meet and discuss their problems with the goal of moving on positively. Others devote their lives to helping others with the same or similar challenges. Some form foundations where they can raise money to help others who have experienced challenges similar to that of the loved ones they have lost. Most of all, they allow their faith to move them on to lives of renewed meaning with benefit to others.

Dad always reminded my sister and me that self-pity doesn’t get anyone anywhere, and that there are innumerable people out there who can be helped if we concentrate upon them rather than ourselves. If we give of ourselves to others, it is a healing to them and to us.

Thank you, Dad, for passing on your wisdom to us. It is said that “love is eternal,” and, of course it is. For, as we all know, “God is love.” (1 John 4:8) I pray that one day I’ll see you in Paradise, but until that time your wisdom and positive nature lives on in my heart and the hearts of all those who knew you and loved you.

Until my next post,

Love,

Cheryl

Think positively and be happy! Rise to the occasion and meet the challenges of this world through acquiring knowledge, gaining wisdom, always thinking positively and fueling your faith through prayer. I know it’s not easy, but with God’s help, we can do it!